When One Parent Loves AI and the Other Hates It

When parents disagree, there's a temptation to 'venue shop' — ask the permissive parent first, hide it from the strict one. This works short term and destroys long-term trust. The harder, better play is to bring both parents into the conversation at the same time.

Some examples

• Asking only the permissive parent and hoping the other doesn't find out: works until it doesn't, and the consequence is usually losing the privilege entirely.
• Saying 'Mom said it was okay' to Dad when Mom said something more nuanced: a classic move that adults remember for years.
• Bringing both parents to the same conversation: 'I'd like to use AI for this. Here's what for. Here's what I won't do. Can we all agree?' is the move.
• If parents disagree on a rule, ask each parent individually what they're worried about — usually you can address the actual fears separately.

Try it!

Next AI permission you need to ask, ask both parents in the same conversation. Yes, it's harder. Yes, you might get a 'no.' But you also get a real agreement that won't blow up later.